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Turning Sorrow into Joy
Around the same time that my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, my toddler grandson moved in with us for awhile.
I rejoiced as Tyler learned to speak and increased his vocabulary.But I was saddened when my mother struggled to remember words and names.
As Tyler advanced from baby mobiles to building blocks, my mother could no longer figure out how to dial a telephone.
Tyler loved to pretend that he was driving our car.Mom was turning over the keys to us, knowing she would never drive again.
My husband and I would shop for educational but fun items that would challenge Tyler and stimulate his brain as he grew.At the same time we would shop for Mom, trying to find items that would simplify her life, such as remotes and telephones with the fewest number of buttons possible.
Having Tyler with us at this difficult time was a Godsend.It helped me come to terms with the fact that although I was facing a progressive death of my mother, I was also experiencing a prog…
Any Special Requests?
Just an FYI:When performing for a roomful of Alzheimer’s patients, it may not be wise to ask for song requests from the audience.Not unless you want to hear the same song over and over!   A well-known local band visited Mom's memory care facility as a special treat.  As soon as they played one requested song another member of the audience would ask for the same song again!  And each time, all the residents would nod their head approvingly at the suggestion!  As though they hadn't just heard the song over and over!  I was pleasantly surprised that Margaritaville and Hotel California were the two requested tunes.  But now I cannot get either of them out of my head.
Every Meal Should Be a Happy Meal!
When I was little, Mom and Dad always made me eat my peas and carrots before I could have desert.I hated peas.Sometimes Dad would hide them in my mashed potatoes but all that did was make me hate mashed potatoes.I became a magician of sorts, making them disappear under my sleeve or in my napkin. Our dog was my accomplice and would gobble up any that I ‘accidentally’ dropped on the floor.
Now on the days I visit Mom at lunch, I have the power to choose her menu.At first I fed her vegetables and meat and then ended the meal with desert.But during the last few years, she began losing her appetite and consequently losing weight.She showed little interest in food.
So I’ve decided to throw the rules out the window!She’s eighty five years old so why should she have to eat her peas?Whether she eats her meal or not, I treat her to a large bowl of vanilla ice cream smothered in both chocolate and caramel sauce.She will devour the bowl and sometimes will eat a…